Relationships are important to me because they are one part of who I am. Each of my family and friends brings out a different part of me, some the serious side others the funny or the crafty or better yet the knowledgeable and/or the caring side. But each friend and family member has those same characteristic within themselves. I would no trade my friends or family member for anything.
What is amazing in this time of technology is finding old friends and reconnecting with them and rebuild a long domante relationship.
My mom, my husband and my daughter are the closest and most positive relationships I have. My mom who has been there through everything in my life and is my second biggest cheerleader I have. Yet I have been there for her when times have been rough. One story that comes to mind is the birth of my first daughter and the possibility of have a C-section, she was there through the whole birth and let me know I could do this. Then the favor was returned, if you want to call it that way, when a few years ago she drove herself to the hospital and the doctors half way through the day started to talk about emergency surgery. With a call to me I was there by her side waiting on test results to see what was to happen next. The doctor said no surgery this time but to go home take her meds like she is suppose to and call her regular doctor Monday morning.
My husband is my biggest cheerleader he let me know that what I want to do to better myself is ok and that he will pick up the slack as needed. I work at this relationship the most because he is the one who will be with me forever. I make sure he know that I love him with all my heart and soul. I trust in the decision he makes even if he does not consult me first, he has done this in the past with wonderful results.
My relationship with my daughters is two fold. Yes! I am their mother and let them know that but we also talk about things, school, friends and dreams.My oldest daughter has moved into a new role of being a wife so I let her know that what she does is not ok at times and that she now needs to think about her husband before make major decisions.
Challanges would be overlooking the small flaw we each have. Sometimes I forget that my friends and family are human and that what I expect out of each of them may not be what they see I need or get. Other times I forget that no one is a mind reader and I need to speak up if I want or need something.
We are listener and thinker first then react or set in to motion a plan.
This works well for me as a preschool teacher because I listen first then repeat back what I hear and the help with a solution if one is needed. Also for me most of the time I can leave my personal stuff at the door so I am there for the children and their parent if need be.
Laury,
ReplyDeleteMarriage can be the most difficult of all relationships and it can be the most rewarding when you have a spouse that is supportive of what you do. You seem to have that and there is no greater role models for your newly married daughter than you and your husband. When your home life is going well then you are more open in the establishment of relationships with the families you serve daily.
My son is also my strongest relationship. It is because of him that I seek to learn what he needs and learn what I need to do for him. I am very blessed to have a child like him and seek to find ways to encourage our relationship and give him the best support that I can. I hope that this will give him the knowledge he needs when he goes out into the world and continue building relationships on his own.
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ReplyDeleteLove the Dr. Suess quote. My favorite book!
Hope the wedding went off without a hitch. We are making invites this week. Daughter said 76 days to go!
I'm in Section 2 this class. Miss the 'regulars.'
Kristi
I really enjoyed reading your reflection. My husband, son, my daughter and my son in law are my support team. They are very supportive when it comes to everything especially my daughter. She always give me advice and helps me with computer work. She is like my secretary. She makes jokes all the time and says "ok boss lady". LOL It's great to have supportive family and friends in your life.
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